Нужно ли помогать ребёнку с уроками: спросили преподавателя, маму и самого школьника

Homework helps to better understand a topic and to consolidate it. But often there are gaps in understanding left after school. In this case, should the parent help with the lessons in the evening or is it the childrens’ responsibility? We collected all «for» and «against» and at the same time asked for the opinion of the mother, child and teachers of Kodland to understand the question.

First opinion: Why shouldn’t parents help with the lessons?

If you behave as if your job is to make sure that a child is doing homework or doing self-education, you only strengthen the belief that it is the parents who are responsible for doing their homework, not him. While you’re fixing mistakes with a student, signing his notebooks, he relies on you and depends on your help. But as soon as you decide to leave it, the child’s performance will decline, and he will lose some of his self-confidence. Such monitoring impedes accountability.

Vladislava, mother of two: I teach the children to be responsible for their homework. If they don’t understand something, it’s better to ask the teacher at school time or to sit a little longer and get a sense of the subject and ask the classmates for advice.

A parent can help in other ways: primary school students will need emotional support, help in organizing the workplace, planning their cases, and targeting. But you don’t have to check homework. You can ask if your homework is done, but evaluating and correcting the exercise is the work of a teacher or a student. The older the child, the less control.

If you do check all the lessons, maybe you should be more selective, for example, just look at subjects where the student has poor grades. Don’t blame me for getting a D, but motivate a child to fix the mark.

Second opinion: Why do parents need to help with lessons?

According to the results of the poll in «Real time» newspaper only 7% of Russian schoolchildren do not copy the answers from the slats. Most often children are not interested in the subject or do not understand the conditions of the given exercise. Of course, adult assistance will be needed in such cases.

And even though tired parents don’t want to sit with the child for lessons at night, it should be noted that the schoolboy has a hard time as well. For example, the fourth-grader’s homework rate is two hours a day, which is a sizable burden combined with sections, extended days at school or tutors. You need to help with unloading the child.

Dmitry, Kodland’s tutor: I believe that help is always necessary. It is a strict thing. Even if it’s in Maths, even if it’s in the creation of websites. Children have a very different level from the beginning.

Nikita, Kodland’s Introductory Tutoring Instructor: I think we should help if the child has already done his or her best. In return, I always tell the children . “Don’t be afraid to be wrong, if something doesn’t work, I’ll come to help you”.

Often in classes, schoolchildren are not interested in studying because of the teacher and his teaching methods. In this case the parent can explain the topic more understandably and give familiar examples. It’s hard to tell how much time a parent should spend a week doing exercises with a child. It’s up to the adults.

Vitalia, primary school student: Children are very different. I think that parents should help with the lessons if it’s necessary. They can help with a notebook, take some time to sort out a complex topic or just find a tutor. As long as the extra tuition is fun.

No matter what you decide, arguing and making children do homework is useless. If you see that the student has lost interest in a subject, try to give an alternative view of the material studied, find motivation together and support for the efforts. Show that an unfinished task or a low grade does not mean that your child is bad and you are in it.